What to avoid:
Baby bottles are unnecessary. If challenges arise necessitating
supplementation, cups or spoons can be used - while continuing to
breastfeed. If a doctor suggests weaning, check with a La
Leche League leader or a lactation consultant (ask the local
hospital or health department for a referral) for expert help in making
such an important decision. In the vast majority of cases, there are
alternatives to weaning.
Cribs, playpens, dummies (pacifiers), baby swings, nursery monitors,
and strollers (especially those that block baby's vision of the parent)
subtly and not-so-subtly alter natural parenting, and can interfere with
the mother-child bond.
What can parents do if they receive gifts they don't want to use? The
problem here is that if there is an unwanted baby device in the house,
someone will try it sooner or later. Parents shouldn't feel obligated to
accept any gift. If they receive one they don't want, they could thank
the giver for thinking of them, then add, "I don't think we will
use this. Could we go and exchange it?" (Shopping together could be
fun.) Or, if they don't expect to be asked about its use, they can
return or sell the item privately, break the item and recycle the
materials, or donate it to a breastfeeding support group for educational
displays. After all, baby equipment should only be used to enhance the
bond between parents and baby.
Marilyn Hogan is an International Board Certified
Lactation Consultant (IBCLC), and the editor/publisher of Back
to Nurture.
Reprinted and adapted from Back to Nurture by
permission of the author.
See also: Is
All That Baby Gear Really Necessary?