||Previous Quotes of the
Month for 1999
"The first real choice a human baby must make is whether to trust or mistrust other
humans. This basic trust-versus-mistrust stage is the first building block upon which all
later love relationships are formed."
Dr. Ken Magid
"Never fear spoiling children by making them too happy. Happiness is the atmosphere
in which all good affections grow."
The Education of the Feelings, 1838
"Five is a wonderful time of life for a little kid... It is a time when the eyes are
wide open and the patterns are not yet set; a time when one has not yet been hammered into
accepting everything as immutable and hopeless; a time when the hands cannot do enough, the
mind cannot learn enough, the world is infinite and colorful and filled with mysteries. Five
is a special time before they take the questing, unquenchable, quixotic soul of the young
dreamer and thrust it into dreary schoolroom boxes. A time before they take the trembling
hands that want to hold everything, touch everything, figure everything out, and make them
lie still on desktops. A time before people begin saying 'act your age' and 'grow
up' or 'you're behaving like a baby'. It is a time of delight, of wonder,
"Jeffty Is Five" in The Magazine of Fantasy and Science Fiction,
"Except in rare times of great stress or danger, there is no reason why we cannot
say 'No' to children in just as kind a way as we say 'Yes'. Both are words. Both
convey ideas which even tiny children are smart enough to grasp. One says, 'We don't do it
that way', the other says 'That's the way we do it'. Most of the time, that is what children
want to find out. Except when overcome by fatigue, curiosity, or excitement, they want to do
it right, do as we do, fit in, take part."
"It's so sad how abusive our world has become. I think the majority of people in
this world have forgotten, or perhaps never knew, what happiness is possible when there is
Duen Hsi Yen,
"Kids who have their needs met early by loving parents ... are subjected totally and
thoroughly to the most severe form of 'discipline' conceivable: they don't do what you
don't want them to do because they love you so much!
"If you haven't cluttered the airwaves between you and your child with a thousand
stupid 'don'ts' over your Royal Doulton china, or not eating their dessert before the main
course, or not finishing their spinach, or not doing this or that, then those few situations
where it really matters because of safety and impropriety don't need anything approaching
the connotation of 'discipline' to ensure appropriate behavior."
Dr. Elliott Barker,
Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children
"You cannot teach a person anything; you can only help him find it within
"When we are polite to children, we show in the most simple and direct way possible
that we value them as people and care about their feelings."
Dr. David Elkind
"All truth goes through three stages. First it is ridiculed. Then it is violently
opposed. Finally, it is accepted as self-evident."
1788 - 1860
"Imagination is more important than knowledge."
"For success in training children the first condition is to become as a child
oneself, but this means no assumed childishness, no condescending baby-talk that the child
immediately sees through and deeply abhors. What it does mean is to be as entirely and
simply taken up with the child as the child himself is absorbed by his life."
The Century of the Child (1909).
"What distinguishes a human being from a computer? The ability to add up numbers?
The ability to understand language? The ability to be logical? It is, of course, none of the
above. It is the ability to play. Computers cannot have fun. They cannot fantasize. They
cannot dream, they cannot experience emotion or summon intuition. These rare, precious
qualities come naturally to every child on this earth yet they tend to be seen, by well
meaning adults, as faults, foibles and failings. In pushing tiny toddlers to 'perform', we
rob them of the ability to imagine."
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